Are Weddings Too Expensive for Guests to Attend?
Over the last year, we have been hearing numerous guests say how expensive weddings are. Some just prefer to send a token gift and not attend the wedding due to their personal financial situation. This is an interesting topic that has come up many times and inspired me to write about it.
When first meeting with a couple for their wedding, they usually have a pretty good idea of how many guests will be invited, but within the last few years it seems many meal counts are coming in much lower than the original guest attendance. Some of this may be attributed to out-of-town guests not being able to make it or others that are simply busy. Invitations are received weeks before the wedding, so guests should have plenty of time to mark their calendars.
When you see a wedding invitation, do you base your decision to attend on whether you are close to the couple or not, or does the expense affect your decision as well?
We all know how expensive weddings are to plan… but are they becoming too expensive to attend as well? A boxed gift or gift of money needs to be given, and transportation or travel accommodations may be required as well. Do you need a new dress? New shoes? Perhaps get your hair and nails done? If you have young children, a babysitter might be necessary. When you start to add all these costs, for some it can be out of reach for some of the guests. Does the time of the Year of the wedding also contribute to your decision. For example, if it’s in December, are you strapped financially because you have purchased your Christmas gifts?
So, my questions is… do you send in your RSVP with a “no” because of the expense? Is sending a small token gift with a congratulations card a better option for you? Maybe you can attend the ceremony (which is the most important part anyways) but not the reception. You won’t have to worry about covering your food and beverage costs.
Currently, times are very tough for many people with many companies closing, and the unemployment rate being so high. This could be why a percentage of guests reply with “not attending” is happening more often. There are ways to avoid some of the costs of attending a wedding, though. For instance, there is no ‘magic amount’ that you are suppose to give as a wedding gift. It really is up to you whether you purchase a gift or give a cheque. A wedding gift does not have to be extravagant. If you really want to attend the wedding but your finances are lacking, then give only what you can.
If you are close with the couple, they will surely understand. The thought is what’s really important, and that you made the effort to be there no matter what you give.
Wedding and event planner for over 18 years of experience, sharing all my ideas and tips with brides to be